Because I am a natural observer, often silenced until called upon to speak, I tend to pay very close attention to the words that people say to each other.
I know this may seem blatantly obvious to some and oblivious to others (the difference that only two letters make), but words have meanings. Some people operate in a way that leads me to believe that they don’t know that the hurtful things that they say to people have meanings and that people will not be affected by them.
It is as if when they call people “worthless” or when they make statements such as “you don’t deserve the air your breathe” and “you will never be anything” that they think the recipient will be seemingly unaffected. They are wrong.
I’ve been called my fair share of mean names in the past ranging from “stupid”, “ugly”, “dull”, and “uneventful” These words vibrate in my head when I can’t sleep at night. These are the words that I think about when the rooms a little too quiet. These are the words that have broken me, time and time again.
For the longest time I thought i was alone, I thought I was the only one who took the words that people said to me so literal and used them to fuel my sleepless nights. This is not to say that words still don’t hurt and that the scars they leave are not real. This post is to say that in time scars will heal. These are words that used to break me. Instead of lying in bed thinking of these hurtful words I use the words as encouragement. I use these same words, used to break me into pieces to inspire me. To be a better person, a better friend and a better lover.
I know that no one is perfect and we have all probably been a bully at one point or another but I do wholeheartedly believe that every human being is capable of change. That every human being is capable of realizing that the words they say during a fight or even when they’ve had a bad day leave semi-permanent scars that momentarily break us.
This is a friendly reminder to be mindful of the things we say to one another and if you are the recipient of those hurtful words, in time your wounds will heal and will one day fuel your success.